3 months of 1:1 coaching to help you break unhealthy dating patterns, recognise when someone isn't right for you, and build relationships without abandoning your needs.
Do any of these feel familiar?
Fall fast, and mistake intensity for connection
Over-give, people-please or go quiet about your needs to keep someone close
Lose yourself in someone new and start rearranging your whole life around them
Need constant reassurance, closeness or sex to feel okay
Give your whole heart to someone you've only just met, and lose yourself when it ends
Stay too long in the wrong relationship, because leaving feels like failing or being "too picky"
Want to slow down, without shutting down completely
Want calm, secure love without losing your voice
Your body learned to read the rush as love. And the anxiety isn't the enemy.
When uncertainty feels unbearable, we bond fast to make it stop. We fall for someone's potential before we've seen their reality, and by the time the truth shows up, we're too deep to leave.
Reading another book doesn't change this, because the pattern doesn't live in your head. It lives in your nervous system. So that's where we work: you learn to hear what your body is telling you, before your mind builds a future.
The goal isn't to never feel anxious again. Some of that will always be there when you care about someone. The goal is to notice it, check in with yourself, and still choose your truth, even on the days you can't follow the dating "rules".
Discernment is free. Heartbreak is expensive.
Three stages, one month each, built on nervous-system work.
Notice the rush and settle yourself enough to choose your next step, instead of being driven by it. So chaos stops feeling like love.
Know your needs, say them without apologising, and choose partners for safety, values and self-trust, not chemistry alone.
Live it in real dating. Truth, boundaries and intimacy that feel honest, mutual and grounded, with me in your corner.
After these 3 months, you'll be able to:
Feel your yes and your no clearly, and act on them
Stop chasing people who aren't emotionally available
Stay present with yourself as things get closer, even when anxiety shows up
Ask for what you need, even when it still feels scary
Feel intimacy that is safe, present and mutual
Simple on purpose, so it fits into a real life.
I'm a somatic sex and relationship coach, and I've been where you are. I used to confuse intensity with safety, and give my heart away early because I couldn't sit with not knowing.
Somatic work changed that for me. I still feel anxious sometimes. The difference is that I know how to come back to myself, check in, and stay with myself while being with someone else. I practise it every day, in my own dating life.
I believe choosing love shouldn't mean losing yourself. My job is to help you say what you need, hold your boundaries, and let the right person meet you there.
Jen
I'm opening Relationship Reset to 3 founding clients at a lower price, in exchange for your honest feedback and a few words about your experience at the end.
Founding clients join at a special lower price. We'll go through everything, including the price and payment options, on your free Reset Call.
Book a free Reset Call →No. This is coaching. We work with what is happening in your dating life now, through your body and your choices.
It works best if you already have some ways to calm yourself when things get hard. If you're carrying severe trauma, such as sexual assault or abuse, and haven't yet had support with it, please start with a trauma-informed therapist. Coaching can come alongside that, or after it, and I'm happy to talk it through on the free call.
No. Whether you're single, swiping, or a few dates in, we work with where you are.
It means working with the body, not only thoughts. Anxious attachment shows up as a racing heart, a tight chest, the urge to text right now. We learn to notice that and settle it, so you can choose instead of react.
Online, on video calls, so you can join from anywhere. We pick a weekly time that works for both of us.
30 minutes to talk about what's been happening for you and what you want instead. If it feels like a fit, I'll tell you how we'd work together. If not, no pressure at all.
Start with a free 30-minute Reset Call.
Free · 30 minutes · No pressure, just connection